Thursday, March 18, 2010

No Judgement

If I end up having a c-section, I want no judgement.

I want to know that I tried. I did my research. I assembled my pro-VBAC support team.

I don't want to be so post-partumly sad and disappointed because of the birth like I was with C. It isn't worth it to me. I want to enjoy those early days with baby as best I can.

I want to be proud that I made a choice that worked for me, my body, my family, my baby.

I have no idea what is going to happen... or when, at this point.

I do know that baby will be here soon.

Why is it that for some women this is no big deal and other women will beat themselves up over this?


CCB said...

No judgement here! You are doing the best job ever! I hope you can OWN that c-section and make it meaningful and perfect for your family. :)

Lo said...

God, no judgment here, either. I am super new to the C-mama club. But I know about doing what you need to do for you and your baby to be safe. That is nobody else's business.

Carrie said...

I love your attitude. There should be no judgement! When my baby was breech, it was looking like I'd need a c/s. (And even now, my baby could be a 12 pounder, so I may still need one in the end)
It's one of those things where-sometimes certain decisions are out of our call. We just have to be zen, and know that whatever is meant to happen will happen.
This baby will soon be in your arms, and whether she comes via vag birth or c/ me, at least, doesn't matter.

A mother should never ever be judged, whether it's how she delivers, drugs vs no drugs, etc. I think your attitude is great, and in the end....c/s or vag birth, those are just details. the big thing is that your baby is almost here! :)